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If you are feeling hopeless then read on as I am going to share some concepts to shake up your thinking.
Remember what you feel stems from how you are thinking about your current situation so let’s tackle those pesky thoughts.
Yes, that narrator in your head that is constantly having an opinion about literally everything about your life. Telling you what you can and can’t do because ‘it’ knows you best, right?
Wrong, it has only ever experienced your past and the past is no longer present. It has gone so all those thoughts are narrating history and probably doing a bad job of that too if you are feeling hopeless.
What you have to realise is that you are not your thoughts. Every minute by minute you have an opportunity to change your life for the better. Whatever has gone, is gone, so please don’t dwell on it, instead look for the solution because with every problem there is ALWAYS a SOLUTION.
I don’t care how bad your mind is telling you your situation is right now it’s lying to you. Let me focus on a few areas that many who feel hopeless often deal with and this could be finances, home, and/or career.
You could be in debt and have no savings, no home of your own, and no job. This is a situation that could definitely breed thoughts of hopelessness. The mind could be transfixed on some of the following thought patterns.
I will never get out of debt.
I can’t afford to buy a home.
I have no savings, I am going to end up homeless.
Nobody will employ me, I am useless.
I am behind in life.
I hate my life.
I hate myself.
All of these thoughts are not helpful at all. They are just stirring up self-pity which won’t help you feel empowered to change your situation. They also won’t help you see opportunities because you are swimming in the sludge at the bottom of the ocean. You need to raise up your thinking to float up to the surface and grab all the opportunities life has to offer you.
You might be believing in all this nonsense your mind is regurgitating to you but it’s sick and it’s all lies. Yes, very convincing lies because it knows how to manipulate you pretty well but regardless deep inside of you there is a pearl of magnificence and this can never be destroyed.
Now you can choose to stay believing all the negativity and focus on all the past mistakes but how is this helping your situation right now? It’s only keeping you stuck and you are ignoring this magnificence inside that desperately needs your loving attention.
Now is the time to…
‘Shake it off’, as Taylor Swift sang. Get rid of all the thoughts that are not serving you ‘Right here, Right now’, as Fat Boy Slim sang, and make today different.
Declare to yourself the following.
‘I am not going to believe my negative thought loops anymore’.
‘I am going to create a new reality for my life.’
As long as you are alive you have hope and opportunities no matter what life has thrown your way. You are not hopeless and I know deep down inside of you there is greatness. Whatever life has dealt you, you can turn your situation around but you have to believe in yourself when nobody else does because you are the only one dealing with those thoughts in your head.
People can be mean, but if your mind is working for you rather than against you, then you can easily knock back any negativity from any outside source. This is why it’s so important to change your thought patterns to cheer you up not beat you down.
Changing any hopeless situation takes one small step at a time. If you are worrying about finances, for example, don’t bury your head in the sand take a small action step. You could read the book ‘Start Late, Finish Rich’ by David Bach. He offers great advice to get your finances in order if you are behind in life and need some hope to boost you back into an optimistic future. This is one small step you could take on your journey out of hopelessness.
If you really want to change your life you can but you have to believe in the power of now. Each second of time it takes you to read one of these sentences is new and in these seconds are sparks of life. Life is a constant gift, a new opportunity to bring forth a new you, as you have never lived in this second by second of the day. Don’t repeat an old pattern breed new life into these seconds and change those unwanted outdated or out-timed patterns.
Get curious about the chain of thoughts that have you feeling hopeless and one by one shine a light upon them and banish them from your life.
You can do this by trying this exercise. Focus on your mind and catch the negative thought. Then write it out on paper and keep doing this until you have a full list you are ready to neutralise.
Here is a sample list
I am too old to change.
I have no money.
I am all alone.
Nobody loves me.
I have nothing to offer the world.
Okay, thoughts let’s just see if this is actually true.
I am too old to change
Are you alive? Yes! Then you are not too old to change, as long as you have life in your limbs you can change.
I have no money
Are you able to eat? How did you get that food? With money? Then again this is a lie. You have money all that is required is a new opportunity to make some more money and that is where you need to engage that creative mind inside of you. We all have it and so use that mind instead of this negative unproductive thinking mind.
I am all alone
Are there people on this planet? Yes, well then you are not alone but you might be isolated and so the opportunity is to go out there and make some friends. Remember small positive steps. Just look at groups to join or online Zoom groups if you don’t feel up to meeting someone in person. There are so many ways to meet people and connect. Find what will work for you.
Nobody loves me
Wow! You are hating on yourself way too much here as I know this is not true. Life may have beaten you down or maybe you have shut people out. Warm your own heart first, love yourself, and see the beauty within. When you do this, you expand and love comes forth. I am sure somebody loves you out there, go stroke a random dog and you’ll soon feel loved.
I have nothing to offer the world
Liar! Liar! You are setting yourself on fire! I am here to put out this lie and tell you, just how unique and special you are because nobody on this planet is like you. Inside of you is something so brilliant and so wanted by this world and you are hiding it behind this lying thought. Stop hiding your light and bring it out and share it with us all. Mankind is screaming out for more positivity as we are bombarded with so much negativity. It’s the simple things in life that are needed in this world. A kind word, a helping hand, and a smile. This is what you could easily offer the world and so much more. Be the light in this world and don’t stay in the shadows listening to all these false thoughts.
I know how hard it is to find hope when you feel all is lost. I don’t want you to give up on yourself because I have read so many stories of people who have hit rock bottom and found a way out. You too can do this, I believe in you and this might seem like nothing to you, as you will be thinking. You don’t even know me. If you are a woman or man or whatever gender you prefer to be defined by then I believe in you. You have a beautiful mind gifted by this universe and is a miracle. You are a miracle and that is why I believe in YOU.
Step out of hopelessness and into hopefulness as you have everything you need inside. The world is waiting for you to decide to bring that light out of hiding and shine bright with all your might.
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I am rooting for you! Wishing you a beautiful life as you journey onward and upward.
Thanks for reading!