Some things in life are harder to let go of than others. We could lose a relationship, job, family member, or our youthful looks, possessions, home life, and/or status.
Loss can come in many shapes and forms, sometimes we see it coming and other times it can hit us totally out of the blue.
There are so many factors involved when you finally release something from your life. It can be a quick or a lengthy process depending on how you process the loss in your mind.
Mastering loss boils down to mastery over your mind. This is because the mind has the ability to remember events from our past and replay them at any given moment bringing both joy and pain.
We can wish to be whisked back to a time or even try to eliminate a time in our mind. Memories are like thought patterns they can play over and over if we keep giving them attention.
I believe this is why many of us find it hard to truly let go because in our minds we haven’t moved on and so the memories are haunting us to go backwards instead of forwards. Plus, we can stay focused on all the positive memories and void out the negative ones keeping us stuck in a fantasy land in our heads.
Yes, I know it is hard when you have lost the love of your life or a family member. No one and nothing can fill this void, that’s why the grieving process is so important because we need some time to delicately lay down the past memories we’ve built up with this person.
Give yourself this time to heal, journal, look over photos and do whatever you need to do with the intention of saying goodbye, for the benefit of yourself and your loved one so you can both finally rest in peace.
You can carry out this same process for whatever loss you are currently dealing with.
The problem occurs when you get trapped in the cycle of memories with someone you don’t want to let go. You refuse to accept they are gone and you live in your head wishing the reality of your life was false. Until you accept the truth and come to peace with it in your own mind you won’t move forward and will stagnate.
Accepting life is transitory and beyond our control is something many of us don’t want to accept. We want to freeze time and keep things the same because it feels safe and secure this way.
Living this way takes the spirit of life out of the equation. To live in this manner voids our expansion and ability to go with life’s flow. It’s like pedaling against a stream of water, it will become more and more challenging. Nothing will stop this stream from flowing, so give up the energy of going against it and flow with it accepting the unknown.
To let go of something in your life is to let go of the old mental pictures. Once you do this you can open up a brand new theatre for the next chapter of your life to unfold. You get to set the stage, take on the role and engage with the many characters in your world.
Let the old things that no longer serve you be over and don’t leave them in your mind on auto-repeat. Take hold of the reins and open up to a new reality waiting for you to become the star of the movie that is your life.
We only get one shot at this life, so make the most of it and use the things you’ve lost to empower you with wisdom and love.
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